Read Me: Dating Trap #9

April 22, 2009 by thinkhappy

Avoiding the 14 Dating Traps

- Dating Trap #9-

Last week I revealed the eighth dating trap – The Love Trap. Were you able to relate to this trap? Have you fallen into this trap yourself? Hopefully, now that you know what this trap is and how to avoid it, you won’t fall into ever again. By avoiding this trap, you are well on your way to having more successful relationships in the future.

As promised here is the ninth dating trap – The s*x Trap.  I am sure it is pretty easy to figure out what this trap is, right? Believing that the partner you are with is the “one” just because under the covers you are compatible. This is a trap that many divorced people easily fall into. You know the old saying – you don’t appreciate what you have until it is gone. Just because you are compatible on the chemistry level does not necessarily mean that you are right for one another. In fact if you base your relationship on this aspect alone the relationship is destined to fail – reason being that the chemistry that makes this stage powerful eventually cools and what are you left with? The reality of the person you are with and if you haven’t effectively screened that person with your relationship requirements, chances are you will find challenges in the relationship.

The best way to avoid the s*x trap is first and foremost personally define when you will choose to introduce this stage into your relationship, once you have identified the when it will be much easier for you to set the boundaries that respect your needs. Not defining the right time for you will allow you to get easily sucked into making the choice when you are caught up in the crazy chemistry stage. Making a conscious choice as when to introduce this stage into a relationship is important and should be done before seeking out a relationship. The last thing you want to do is feel obligated to stay in the relationship because you have gotten trapped in the s*x trap.

Finally, you want to have your relationship requirements clearly defined and then use them to sort, screen and scout your potential partner. By having a clear relationship vision you can more easily avoid getting caught up in the chemistry of the relationship and the s*x trap.

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