Read Me: Dating Trap #5

February 23, 2009 by thinkhappy

Avoiding the 14 Dating Traps

Dating Trap #5

Last week I revealed the fourth dating trap – The Compatibility Trap. Were you able to relate to this trap? Have you fallen into this trap yourself? Hopefully, now that you know what this trap is and how to avoid it, you won’t fall into ever again. By avoiding this trap, you are well on your way to having more successful relationships in the future.

As promised here is the fifth dating trap – The Fairytale Trap. When you hear the word Fairytale what images come to mind? I know for me when I hear that word it takes me back to when my daughter was young and we used to watch the Disney movies – Cinderella, The Little Mermaid, Snow White, Beauty and the Beast, Sleeping Beauty and the Seven Dwarfs. What do all of these movies have in common? First they are all described as fairytales and second the princes in the movies just miraculous appear to rescue the girl and to live happily ever after. These ideas might make for an entertaining movie but carrying this philosophy into adulthood and into the real world only gets you stuck in the Fairytale Trap.

If you passively expect your ideal partner to magically appear, so you can live happily ever after without effort on your part – you have fallen into the Fairytale Trap. Believing that finding your soul mate will just “happen” – as occurs in the fairytale movies of your childhood, results in disappointment.  And if a partner does miraculously show up don’t assume he/she is the one, be sure to filter them through your relationship requirements before making a commitment.

You can avoid this trap by taking personal responsibility for your relationship choices and outcomes. Have effective scouting, sorting, and screening strategies. Initiate contact and be the “Chooser”, don’t simply react to people that choose you. Believe that you deserve to have all of your relationship requirements met so you can live your ideal life vision, don’t settle for less.

Be sure to come back next week when I reveal the solution to the sixth dating trap – The Date to Mate Trap.

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