Read Me! Dating Trap #10

May 25, 2009 by thinkhappy

Avoiding the 14 Dating Traps

- Dating Trap #10- 

Last week I revealed the ninth dating trap – The s*x Trap. Were you able to relate to this trap? Have you fallen into this trap yourself? Hopefully, now that you know what this trap is and how to avoid it, you won’t fall into ever again. By avoiding this trap, you are well on your way to having more successful relationships in the future.

As promised here is the tenth dating trap – The Rescue Trap. You fall into the rescue trap when you sit around hoping that your knight in shining armor will come sweep you away and solve all of your emotional and financial difficulties and bring you happiness and fulfillment, something like winning the lottery. When in this trap you avoid taking responsibility for your life challenges, expecting to be rescued from them. Approaching a relationship from this place will undoubtedly result in feelings of desperation, neediness and failure when your problems multiply instead of disappear. Recently divorced and/or single parents are very susceptible to falling into this trap. Suddenly navigating the future alone, struggling financially due to the loss of your spouse’s income and dealing daily with the challenges of raising your children alone makes it extremely easy for single parents and recently divorced women to easily fall into this trap.

So what is the answer? The answer to avoiding the Rescue Trap is to first and foremost become responsible for fulfilling your own emotional and financial needs. Get your house in order before going out searching for a relationship. One way to determine what areas of your life that need work is by completing the Relationship Readiness Quiz. After taking the quiz you will have a clear picture of what areas of your life need to be taken care of before you get involved in a relationship. The next step is to become very clear on your life and relationship vision, by doing this you avoid the possibility of settling for something less than what you deserve. Remember you always want to go into a relationship from a place of want rather than need. Being desperate when seeking a partner only results in failure – be the chooser and come from a solid emotional and financial place first. 

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