DH refuses to see doc for infertility

February 27, 2010 by cautiousoptimism

My gyns told me they could find nothing wrong with me and said that before they do other invasive tests that my husband needed to be checked out.  I told him and he denied any thing being wrong with him and that the problem was with me. He always blamed it on me.  He was patient though.  People started to question more and more and I hated having to lie or tell them my business.  It was so embarassing.  Anyway after months of nagging him, he finally went to the lab to get tested.  When the results came, I was dumbfounded.  His sperm count was too low to conceive.  My gyn said its definitely him and that he needs to see a urologist.  Well, when I told him the news, he was devastated at me.  He still denied that he had the problem.  I begged him to go to the doc and somehow his ego would flare and he would start yelling and cursing and throwing things.  A few years passed and he still wouldnt go.  He would claim that if it was in our destiny to have children, it would happen naturally.  I was beginiing to lose hope in becoming a mother.  Actually I did lose hope, he was not supportive at all.  Another stressor, his dad from overseas suggested that he get another Wife that can continue their lineage!  What nerve!

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